Whole Again: Healing Your Heart and Rediscovering Your True Self After Toxic Relationships and Emotional Abuse
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- Author：Jackson MacKenzie
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Summary
From a leading voice on recovering from toxic relationships， a deeply insightful guide to getting back to your "old self" again--in order to truly heal and move on。
Jackson MacKenzie has helped millions of people in their struggle to understand the experience of toxic relationships。 His first book， Psychopath Free， explained how to identify and survive the immediate situation。 In this highly anticipated new book， he guides readers on what to do next--how to fully heal from abuse in order to find love and acceptance for the self and others。
Through his close work with--and deep connection to--thousands of survivors of abusive relationships Jackson discovered that most survivors have symptoms of trauma long after the relationship is over。 These range from feelings of numbness and emptiness to depression， perfectionism， substance abuse， and many more。 But he's also found that it is possible to work through these symptoms and find love on the other side， and this book shows how。 Through a practice of mindfulness， introspection， and exercises using specific tools， readers learn to identify the protective self they've developed - and uncover the core self， so that they can finally move on to live a full and authentic life--to once again feel light， free， and whole， and ready to love again。
This book addresses and provides crucial guidance on topics and conditions like: complex PTSD， Narcissistic abuse， Avoidant Personality Disorder， Codependency， Core wounding， toxic shame， Borderline Personality Disorder， and so many more。
Whole Again offers hope and multiple strategies to anyone who has survived a toxic relationship， as well as anyone suffering the effects of a breakup involving lying， cheating and other forms of abuse--to release old wounds and safely let the love back inside where it belongs。
Jackson MacKenzie has helped millions of people in their struggle to understand the experience of toxic relationships。 His first book， Psychopath Free， explained how to identify and survive the immediate situation。 In this highly anticipated new book， he guides readers on what to do next--how to fully heal from abuse in order to find love and acceptance for the self and others。
Through his close work with--and deep connection to--thousands of survivors of abusive relationships Jackson discovered that most survivors have symptoms of trauma long after the relationship is over。 These range from feelings of numbness and emptiness to depression， perfectionism， substance abuse， and many more。 But he's also found that it is possible to work through these symptoms and find love on the other side， and this book shows how。 Through a practice of mindfulness， introspection， and exercises using specific tools， readers learn to identify the protective self they've developed - and uncover the core self， so that they can finally move on to live a full and authentic life--to once again feel light， free， and whole， and ready to love again。
This book addresses and provides crucial guidance on topics and conditions like: complex PTSD， Narcissistic abuse， Avoidant Personality Disorder， Codependency， Core wounding， toxic shame， Borderline Personality Disorder， and so many more。
Whole Again offers hope and multiple strategies to anyone who has survived a toxic relationship， as well as anyone suffering the effects of a breakup involving lying， cheating and other forms of abuse--to release old wounds and safely let the love back inside where it belongs。
Reviews
Kristen
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12/10 this book was a game changer for my mental health。
Amani
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One of the best books on recovering from dating trauma I have ever read。 So much resonating。 Wow。
Meaghan
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Caveat emptor this was not written by a psychologist or therapist。 But this is the best book I’ve read on the subject of recovery from trauma。 I’ve been looking for something like this for a while。 It’s the first I’ve read that talks to people who were traumatized as adults from a passing situation/relationship。 Most resources only talk to those with codependency issues or childhood trauma and being “subconsciously attracted to” instability。 They talk about how to not feel or do those things so Caveat emptor this was not written by a psychologist or therapist。 But this is the best book I’ve read on the subject of recovery from trauma。 I’ve been looking for something like this for a while。 It’s the first I’ve read that talks to people who were traumatized as adults from a passing situation/relationship。 Most resources only talk to those with codependency issues or childhood trauma and being “subconsciously attracted to” instability。 They talk about how to not feel or do those things so if you already don’t， you’re stuck in a no man’s land。 He hits the nail on the head about “empaths” and recovery lifestylers and offers direct， actionable， solutions oriented advice and guidance you can start right now。 Insightful and helpful if you’re actually looking to clean house。 。。。more
Rania
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This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers。 To view it， click here。 This book is amazing in describing healing journey when your heart is soften to feel love again after painful experience。 We are victims of ourselves， we get distracted from our pain by being a victim for a narcissist or a borderline disorder person。 I will phrase a quote from the book “releasing the idea of betrayal from our own hearts， so that we can be free。 Betrayal convinces us that we are being let down， and that our needs won’t be met。 Breaking beyond this belief （however true it might ha This book is amazing in describing healing journey when your heart is soften to feel love again after painful experience。 We are victims of ourselves， we get distracted from our pain by being a victim for a narcissist or a borderline disorder person。 I will phrase a quote from the book “releasing the idea of betrayal from our own hearts， so that we can be free。 Betrayal convinces us that we are being let down， and that our needs won’t be met。 Breaking beyond this belief （however true it might have been） allows us to live in the present moment again。 This isn’t about rewriting history， but rather finding joy and meaning in the process of opening our own hearts。”When I read this book I just wanted to read each line impatiently， to understand myself and the pattern we are trapped in because of our protective self that prevents us from living the present moment peacefully。 Here is another quote that I want to share with you:“The story as to why you feel what you feel is not important。 When you get into explanations， stories， reasons or justifications of ‘why，’ then you are splitting* off from the experience itself。 The story comes after the experience and it is a justification and a distraction。 You cannot think your way out of the False Core–False Self because it is doing the thinking。 Your mind is driven by it。”Again we deserve unconditional love from ourselves we seek it from wrong people and get hurt in endless loop of shame and unworthiness。“You deserve to be in relationships and friendships where your needs are met too。 When you stop taking care of others all the time， you give them a chance to meet you halfway。 The truly toxic ones won’t like this new dynamic and they’ll try to manipulate you back to “normal。” Again， this is simply a sign that the person isn’t a good fit for you anymore。”I loved the book， it’s into the point with a life experience from the author and his clients。 。。。more
Breanne Bachovchin
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I started this book over 3。5 years ago。 I wish I would have finished it back then， but I don’t think I was ready and willing to do the healing work。 Transformative and incredible。 500 stars。
Nan
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Kelly Storc
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This is the perfect book to read once you have inundated yourself on information about cluster-B personality disorders。 Anyone who has been abused by someone like tends to go through a period of time where you are obsessively learning about the twisted mind of the person who hurt you。 You really want to make sure you are never hurt like that again。 This book helps you put the focus back on yourself。 This is the only book I have ever read that actually helped me understand why I feel/felt a numbn This is the perfect book to read once you have inundated yourself on information about cluster-B personality disorders。 Anyone who has been abused by someone like tends to go through a period of time where you are obsessively learning about the twisted mind of the person who hurt you。 You really want to make sure you are never hurt like that again。 This book helps you put the focus back on yourself。 This is the only book I have ever read that actually helped me understand why I feel/felt a numbness after entering my personal healing journey。 It’s the only book that helped me learn how to truly address toxic shame。 This is a must read！ 。。。more
Yoanne Tilley
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I found it to be very well written I found myself struggling with what personality/survivor I was at times。 Overall it was a good read。。 I am currently on the right path learning to let go of the protective self。
Bridget Johnson
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12/10 changed my life。
Diana
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I highly recommend the audiobook。
Bri
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I read this slowly and didn't quite finish， but hope to buy and journal with。 Sincerely a meaningful read。 Incredibly helpful for those needing a wake-up call on ego and self。 I read this slowly and didn't quite finish， but hope to buy and journal with。 Sincerely a meaningful read。 Incredibly helpful for those needing a wake-up call on ego and self。 。。。more
Melvin Guerrero
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This book is an excellent source of information and a guide to help you how to heal all your wounds and get back to a stable emotional and mindset
Sarah
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I wish this book had gotten a little more specific on some of the methods used for healing， but it was an extremely validating read。 If you’ve been in a toxic relationship， give this book a try。
Isabella Cristian
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Very practical， easy to read。 I am yet to try the methods described but they make a lot of sense。
Good
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Dangerous as a substitute for professional help。
Bichar Hamid
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Book starts off quite rocky in my opinion， sounded like a psychological guide rather than a book。 Maybe that’s just me nitpicking and projecting the style of books I enjoy reading。 Must admit I skipped through to the end， the healing part And wow am I blown away。 It makes sense as the author intends to take you towards the journey and for someone fresh off a breakup I guess it’s needed For myself however， I’m like 90% healed， just really needed that final nugget that pushes me towards the end li Book starts off quite rocky in my opinion， sounded like a psychological guide rather than a book。 Maybe that’s just me nitpicking and projecting the style of books I enjoy reading。 Must admit I skipped through to the end， the healing part And wow am I blown away。 It makes sense as the author intends to take you towards the journey and for someone fresh off a breakup I guess it’s needed For myself however， I’m like 90% healed， just really needed that final nugget that pushes me towards the end line。 But towards the end implements the most profound and valuable lesson I’ve had all year。 That end part and introducing nonduality has been the most impactful thing。 One thing I love is that not only did u get the lesson， but he gave you daily steps you can take。 I will absolutely recommend this book to anyone。 。。。more
Carly Davies
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Really eye opening and insightful
Cady
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This book contains a ton of useful nuggets of info。 There’s great insight & helpful advice & I think it would be a great starting point if you’re seeking a journey towards healing。 However， the author doesn’t have any background in treating personality disorders or CPTSD & some of the information is incorrect。 Personality disorders can’t just be turned off with a choice， they require professional treatment， therapy， and many times medication。 And I was diagnosed with CPTSD & the symptomatology v This book contains a ton of useful nuggets of info。 There’s great insight & helpful advice & I think it would be a great starting point if you’re seeking a journey towards healing。 However， the author doesn’t have any background in treating personality disorders or CPTSD & some of the information is incorrect。 Personality disorders can’t just be turned off with a choice， they require professional treatment， therapy， and many times medication。 And I was diagnosed with CPTSD & the symptomatology varies depending on the abuse you suffered （the author says CPTSD doesn’t present as symptoms of BPD or narcissism but it actually can）。 If you’re interested in books that are in depth & scientifically sound in regards to trauma， abusive relationships， and/or parent wounds please check out: Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete WalkerThe Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents （and the sequels） by Lindsay C。 Gibson and The Drama of the Gifted Child by Alice Miller 。。。more
T
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i am thankful for any resource on cluster-b relationships。 i don't like the writing style / voice much but there were still gems in here to help me see my situation / feelings more clearly。 thank you 🙇♀️ i am thankful for any resource on cluster-b relationships。 i don't like the writing style / voice much but there were still gems in here to help me see my situation / feelings more clearly。 thank you 🙇♀️ 。。。more
Melinda Richmond
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Very helpful bookIt took me several chapters to get into this book。 It felt a little hokey at times （my only reason for deducting a star） but overall it was full of great information， both encouraging and challenging。
Kayleigh Grace
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Absolutely incredible。 MacKenzie has completely changed my perspective on healing through my trauma and I am so grateful for it。 Please， read it。 It is good for you。That being said， I feel like some points were repeated too many times， however that does not affect its score because to me， the content at large is worth rereading again and again。 It is so amazingly thorough。 I felt like I was no longer an alien。 If you have been through a traumatic relationship and don't know where to start， start Absolutely incredible。 MacKenzie has completely changed my perspective on healing through my trauma and I am so grateful for it。 Please， read it。 It is good for you。That being said， I feel like some points were repeated too many times， however that does not affect its score because to me， the content at large is worth rereading again and again。 It is so amazingly thorough。 I felt like I was no longer an alien。 If you have been through a traumatic relationship and don't know where to start， start here。MacKenzie gives specific examples of behavior that results from emotional abuse and how it benefits no one in the end。 I needed that loving kick in the pants。 You do， too。Be well and read this book。 Then read it again。Make sure you buy your own copy because you'll want to have a highlighter ready。 。。。more
Whitney Quaynor
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After being in failed relationships， this book gave a good perspective on having a relationship with yourself。 it is a book you would refer back to at different period of your life
Arielle
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3。5 stars
Lizbeth Velasco
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If I had read the physical copy of the book instead of the audiobook 😔 then I would've given it 5 stars。 So much wisdom and knowledge packed into a book， I've gained clarity on why I am the way that I am。 If I had read the physical copy of the book instead of the audiobook 😔 then I would've given it 5 stars。 So much wisdom and knowledge packed into a book， I've gained clarity on why I am the way that I am。 。。。more
Amy McGee
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If you've ever had the unfortunate experience of surviving a relationship with a narcissist， this is the best book you can possibly read。 If you've ever had the unfortunate experience of surviving a relationship with a narcissist， this is the best book you can possibly read。 。。。more
Meghan McFarland
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Book was exactly what I needed in my healing process and self growth。 The wound wasn’t so fresh so I think this book helped in my reflection back on past relationships。 The idea of the “protective self” is one that will stay with me and am working on recognizing my own。 This gave me a lot of validation as well in that it wasn’t abnormal to struggle this much in getting over a toxic relationship。
Salima Bensalah
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Compassionately written for those healing from emotional abuse。 Practise mindfulness and forgive to reconnect with yourself again。
Kendra Garrett
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Took me a while to finish this one but lots of good stuff。 Would definitely recommend！
Mari Ekeløf
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This book has saved my life🙏 Please read it❤️
Gigi
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